I have a question for the subs... So I am sincerely hoping that some of you all will come forth and share your thoughts as I am super curious about this.


How important it is for you to serve a Domme who has ACTUAL real time Domination experience in the offline fetish scene... by "experience," I mean a Domme who:

-attends munches

-play parties

-fetish fairs

-has real time subs serve them

-has demonstrated an understanding of the lifestyle, through their dedication to learn the complexities of various kinks such as bondage, edge play, and medical play?


Are these experiences important to you?  Please share!

This is a difficult one for me to answer.

With a Domme/Sub relationship I don't really have a checklist, personality is important and what will be will be, as that relationship develops.

I like it to be about exploring, experiencing things togethor, a sharing of the experience and atleast discussing what we both want and what I can contribute in these activities.

I guess on the whole it's not important, what is most important is that the future experience we share is good and means something to all involved.

Thanks for your response, utopia.

 

I hope to hear from other subs on this site, as well

It depends on what kind of things they are looking to do. I am very new to all of this and not experienced myself. If they are looking to do things that will push my boundaries and comfort levels then I would want them to be experienced in it. For things like footworship that have little chance of injuring myself then experience is not important only willingness and that they enjoy it as much as I do.

slave_jonathan-

I like your response.  I agree that many dommes and subs have sterile relationships.  I've had a few subs seem to get confused when I want to get to know anything personal about them.  In my opinion, you can't truly control someone when you don't know much about them.  If you don't know that they have a weekly Poetry Club meeting, you can't use the attendence of that club as a punishment or reward, or require them to write poetry for you, for example.  There is so much that can be done when you really know someone.

I do develop affection for my subs.  I don't feel that my cats are equal to me, but I still like them, even love them.  I think the same applies to my subs.  They may be my inferiors, but some care is there, and I can respect them in some ways, even as I debase them. 

At least, that is how it is for me.

Mistress Madame, this was a great question.  Thanks, even if the subs haven't given us much input.