Congrats Vixen and welcome back!! (Yes I know its a late response, I too have been away a lot) Sounds like you are having loads of fun! With the right people, you can make anything work within the lifestyle. One's reason for being where they are, is a huge factor in that. If it's more self gratification and not truly the "serving" aspect, then no it won't work too well. If their true need is making you happy, serving you.. then the other things will not be an issue. Some things are meant to be, some are not... I try to remind Myself of that.
Good luck to you all and have the most fun with it you can :) Great to have you back!