Curiosity has once again set in and it has me thinking about what you all consider the ideal partner - submissive, Dominant, switch, or maybe not involved in the scene at all? I come from a situation which seems to be a minority in the lifestyle, a Dom/Domme couple. This is part of the reason why I look to meet other people but don't involve myself sexually.

I suppose in that sense, I have several partners but only one whom I am in love with. I've been known to love a sub, and care about them, but there hasn't been a time when a relationship with a submissive type guy has ever worked for me in the slightest. 

So what's your ideal partner (life partner, activity partner)? Let me know all about it!

Hmm...my ideal partner...doesn't necessarily have to be a Domme - mater of fact, they wouldn't even have to be involved in BDSM. Just someone who gets me, appreciates me, makes me feel loved. Looks are important too, but the three things i listed above have a higher priority. i'd want to let my girlfriend feel the same too.

My ideal partner would be a domme who is also a romantic companion. By romance I refer to things emotional versus things sexual.

If I had to choose, I am more likely to go for romantic companion who is not actively into dominance (but is open to it) than a woman who enjoys dominance but there is not enough interpersonal or romantic compatibility. I think a relationship has greatest long-term promise if it satisfies wants for companionship (romantic or friendly companion), or brings spiritual fulfillment. I am less optimistic about a relationship that brings sexual gratification only. The more time spent together, the more I see this idea to apply.

For me, interpersonal compatibility supercedes D/s compatibility. While my ideal relationship would be a romantic companionship with a domme, I recognize other possibilities: a relationship with a vanilla woman who is open enough to BDSM (some aspects of submission align well with romance and love), an open relationship with a vanilla woman, or to be a part of a sub-sub couple.

The context of my statements above is a long-term relationship that spans life in general. For a relationship that is based on D/s alone, an ideal partner would be one with whom there exists chemistry. attraction and trust as well as reasonable compatibility of D/s interests.

Cheers,

Sea

i found my ideal partner, and i think She found hers as well, we are Domme/sub, husband and wife and best friends.  It's complex life that requires a lot of communicatin but it works for us.