You here lots of talk about dismissal everywhere, (i.e. Domme deciding She wants nothing to do with a sub anymore) That's all well and good and could happen for a lot of reasons. i only mention this b/c it came up in a conversation today about what rights a sub has to end the relationship. Essentially i believe both parties have an equal say in when the relationship ends. For example a Domme collars a slave or sub, (figuratively or literaly) then for whatever reason things don't work out for the sub, the sub should return the collar (as it is the Domme's property) and walk away. Whether you believe in SSC, RACK, or TPE, any is ended by the withdrawal of consent by either party. Now most people realize this, but many times if a sub leaves a Domme, the Domme may interfere in other future relationship he may have. This is petty nonsense, that most people i know well here wouldn't partake in, however i have seen it happen here. (a brief aside, if you are a pro, and a sub owes you money, that's a bit different, b/c there is a business relationship that goes along with that) Sometimes things don't work out.

Just a side note..in My experience..I have seen many times as well, that the submissive or slave wants to leave but feels or thinks he/she can't due to contractual agreement or because they are slaves etc.. I have come across this recently..Have others felt this way? Has anyone else been confronted with this?

I agree, brit(!!), consent is important... if you don't want to be here, then I certainly don't want to keep you. I cannot understand why someone would keep someone against their will.

That's so not hott!!!

sissybrittany wrote: You here lots of talk about dismissal everywhere, (i.e. Domme deciding She wants nothing to do with a sub anymore) That's all well and good and could happen for a lot of reasons. i only mention this b/c it came up in a conversation today about what rights a sub has to end the relationship. Essentially i believe both parties have an equal say in when the relationship ends. For example a Domme collars a slave or sub, (figuratively or literaly) then for whatever reason things don't work out for the sub, the sub should return the collar (as it is the Domme's property) and walk away. Whether you believe in SSC, RACK, or TPE, any is ended by the withdrawal of consent by either party. Now most people realize this, but many times if a sub leaves a Domme, the Domme may interfere in other future relationship he may have. This is petty nonsense, that most people i know well here wouldn't partake in, however i have seen it happen here. (a brief aside, if you are a pro, and a sub owes you money, that's a bit different, b/c there is a business relationship that goes along with that) Sometimes things don't work out.

I'm going to stay on track with the topic itself. I've seen this many times, not just online, but in person as well. The misconception that a sub/slave HAS to be released by the dominant, in order to leave. Contracts are not valid in court, you're doing nothing less than holding someone against their will, if they are there without consent. If they wish to leave the relationship.. let them GO, for heavens sake! Why in the hell (as MM pointed out) would you want someone IN the relationship, if they tell you they want out???? Are you that desperate, that you have to keep someone against their will?

And yes Annastasia, I've heard of that a lot. A submissive/slave is taught they have no rights to walk out, or they "think" because they see the "subs have no rights" so many times, that it means they don't have a right to even leave.

A friend of Mine, told his Domme it was over, she tried to wave the slave contract in front of his face, told him he could NOT go anywhere, they had a contract! He smiled and told her.. guess I'll see you in court then. Which of course, never happened. For a "mindset", contracts are ok... for legal, they aren't worth the paper they are written on.

In reality, ANYONE can depart a relationship, its your choice. Dominant (pro, lifestyle, finanacial, etc..), submissive, fetishist, vanilla, friendship, etc.............. etc.......

A dom/Sub realionship is just like any other ,finiacl or not it should be fun and enjoyable for both parties, If it's not working for one reason or the other , i say leave, but atlest have the balls to tell me, Don't just up and go ,don't ignore my messgaes or emails ,,,JUST TELL ME

Mistress_Sanndy wrote: A dom/Sub realionship is just like any other ,finiacl or not it should be fun and enjoyable for both parties, If it's not working for one reason or the other , i say leave, but atlest have the balls to tell me, Don't just up and go ,don't ignore my messgaes or emails ,,,JUST TELL ME

Yes! Handling the situation with some integrity would be nice...