Upon reflection of the past year I think of how much things have changed. I am once again back in the online scene, it's been 5 months and things are going well. For sure there is much more good than bad, and that's what keeps me going. I realize that in that time, there is one thing that keeps reoccurring to me. What has happened to true devotion?
It seems that the time I've been back, and perhaps my eyes are wide open this time around, there is more Domme-jumping than before. Is this a product of the insta-Domme, a society where we want things yesterday, subs without proper training...? Is it the result of a combination of factors?
I'd love to hear some thoughts on both sides of the subject.

Great topic Elle!

I see a lot of that as well, here online (not just mds) and in r/t. If that's your thing, and you don't want to be involved in a relationship, thats fine too. There's many who date openly, not being tied down, so to speak, to just one. Be honest about it.

But as you brought up Elle, I think there's a lot of confusion when it comes to Domme-hopping. One has her own ways of wanting things done, how you should act, expectations, etc... Another will have different ways. To me, that just leads to confusion and a lack of fulfillment, you're too busy trying to hop around and make everyone happy, often times you're neglecting the reason you feel/felt the need to submit. You begin questioning yourself and your submission, feeling like a gopher, instead of a submissive.

This is just what I've seen from talking to those that are scattered and unsure of why things aren't feeling right within them. Why they're more confused than when they started. Hard to have guidance and understanding, when you have too many guides, each one with their own direction and guidelines. Each one differing in how they are pleased.

I understand that totally, I can't imagine putting myself in that sort of position. I think there is responsibility on both sides for sure. It seems like the convenience of serving whomever, whenever they can is becoming more popular online. I don't mind it so much if the sub is upfront and honest about it, it sure can make for some laughs seeing what someone else has left on them. I guess what really bothers me is the sneakiness, the bending the truth and etc.

This is so right on. I was thinking about posting something about this as well, but you beat Me too it-- I can still spin it a different angle, however.

But in response to the way you set this up. I too have noticed a deterioration in the way subs approach Dommes, submit to Dommes, interact with Dommes and view the lifestyle in general. I think there are many factors for this.

One being that some Dommes are really fucked up and not worth putting for the effort for, however this does not justify not showing respect to everyone. Also, I think along with the good that the internet has brought about (Me and you :D [kidding-- kinda]) like mass exposure, it has flooded the lifestyle with a greater amount of lesser genuine people. So you have people with impure motives, if you will, mixing in a community and lifestyle of people who have a higher degree of integrity.

Past that, I think that people now a days are just less likely to be as polite as they were back in the olden days... I remember it like it was yesterday

Simply..True devotion flew with full service dommes and kids who are in it for the wrong reasons.The escourt business and porn industry tried to expand by moving in. They attract people who are not of the lifestyle, really have no interest in learning and expect some sort of sexual release.
So if domina 1 wont give that footjob, jump to domina 2 who will crank one out for him.
I watched things turn from good to bad over the last 20 years, and honestly, I see it only getting worse.
I cant begin to tell you about the # of new sessions I have had where the question of "release" has come up at the ending.
When was it even assumed that there was even the rite to ask such a thing?
When smothering became fellatio, when foot sessions became footjobs, and when strap on became a prostrate massage.
My true devotees are all much much older, and wouldnt DARE to ask any of this from me.

DominaC wrote: Simply..True devotion flew with full service dommes and kids who are in it for the wrong reasons. They attract people who are not of the lifestyle, really have no interest in learning and expect some sort of sexual release. So if domina 1 wont give that footjob, jump to domina 2 who will crank one out for him. When smothering became fellatio, when foot sessions became footjobs, and when strap on became a prostrate massage.

Damn, this was VERY well said! I think it accurately reflects the general consensus of the scene.

I have had this same discussion with others about it being a D/s vs B&D-S&M thing, and it really isn't (at least in My opinion). Because from what I have been told by the O.G.'s of BDSM is that it was never as selfish of a practice as it is now. Now, people just want rub one out while cheating on their wives and hubbies by having some kinky sex with an over romanticized image of stranger in front of an audience. It's all just a game of fantasy now, and I think we are increasingly loosing site of reality.

Respectfully to All regarding Domme hopping. sometimes i am not sure when a Domme considers me as "HERS". i know and try to devote myself to one Domme. One day She may consider me, the next day not at all. i can tell the Dommes on ths blog are mature in the lifestyle but others on line are not. i'm just saying it can be confusing for the sub as well

verrrrrry respectfully,

lenia.

lenia wrote: Respectfully to All regarding Domme hopping. sometimes i am not sure when a Domme considers me as "HERS". i know and try to devote myself to one Domme. One day She may consider me, the next day not at all. i can tell the Dommes on ths blog are mature in the lifestyle but others on line are not. i'm just saying it can be confusing for the sub as well verrrrrry respectfully, lenia.

I see this happening a lot, you need to be certain to ask, if you aren't sure. Ask for the rules and guidelines she has. So you're both on the same page, and you aren't in the midst of confusion. Any good domme will be willing to talk and erase the confusion.

I would devote myself to one Domme, as a slave that is new to the lifstyle I find it very difficult to locate or find serious Dommes.   To seek out Pro Dommes becommes expensive and you do not get that specific bond between Domme and sub.  I am not sure what other countries are like but here on the worlds biggest island there is a shortage of Dominiant females.  I have personally tried to seek out a Domme in real life but must admit, I will probaly only experience Domme/sub online if I am lucky.

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