When two worlds collide can it ever work or is it doomed? I have known many over the years who have thier vanilla life and then thier bdsm life. Can it really work or does one fill in for the shortcomings of the other? 

Over the years I have met people who have had great lives on one side or the other, but when you are living two lives, can one ever be happy? I know many subs who have told me about thier wives or girlfriends not being into the scene, yet this life we live is like heroine, addicting in it's need. So they search out a Mistress or play to try to get some of the dark side need fullfilled.  But is it two halves and not one full??? Not being pro, is it a dis-service for a lifestyle Domme to walk into thier path?

Do Dom/mes feel they can truely own a sub/slave if they are married or is it just ok to own that part? For most of my life in this life it has been a whole for me. Over the last few years I have met many great subs where maybe it wasn't going to be the whole thing but they were smart, interesting etc enough to get a bit involved in.

I am watching a few struggle between thier needs and desires vs thier nilla wants and needs. I have seen many over the years try to make it on the nilla side and at some point it usually crawls back up and the need to serve/play overtakes the decision they made. I find this life about fullfilling my desires as well as those with me for the ride, I guess as long as the train is going in the same direction I guess..lol. I think then, it takes alot of trust and communication, maybe even more then usual. 

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